Listen to this. You’re welcome.

inlovewithmyipod:

lierdumoa:

nugget-basket:

the-unpopular-opinions:

The Opposite end of traditional “street harassment”: the girl who never get’s cat called
In feminist spaces I see a lot of feminists complain about being street harassed. I read about it and I totally sympathize with their experiences, even though I have never experienced them myself. I am a female myself but am not conventionally attractive. I am not hideous but more or less a plain jane. On top of that I have ALWAYS valued comfort over style, so dressing feminine isn’t something I do on a regular basis. I wear a lot of loose jeans and T-shirts. But yeah, anyway, know that I  am not trying to play “who has it harder” or anything but rather I am making this to share my experiences of getting the opposite end of the shit-covered stick that is street harassment that I don’t see being mentioned. I call it street dismissal.
When I say street dismissal I am talking about men who feel the need to subtly announce that unattractive women are not worthy of respect or acknowledgement because they are not a conventionally attractive female or their fellow man. 
Some examples I’ve personally experienced include:
Many guys at parties will arrive or leave, give all the men handshakes, give the attractive women hugs, but won’t even make eye contact with me. I am not a guy or a hot girl so I don’t exist.
I’ve been bumped into in public without an apology by men. I am not an attractive girl or your fellow man, so it makes sense for you to not even notice I am there.
One time I was walking behind a group of attractive women. A guy spotted us. Opened the door for the three women and shut the door in my face. I am not worthy of his time because I am not attractive.
I once was charged a cover on ladies night because I went out to the bar in my work uniform. (red shirt khaki pants)
Another time at a bar, I saw an open space to order a drink. The guy sitting next to me saw me, raised his eyebrows and turned the other way to make sure I don’t DARE try to talk to him. (Because I totally went there to hit on him and NOT get a drink right?)
I once went with my gay male friend to a straight guys house he knew. The first thing out of the straight guy’s mouth was “I was totally excited when you had a chick with you. Nevermind!” the whole night he offered my friend drinks and didn’t offer me a thing and seemed frustrated when I asked where the bathroom was. The only other thing he said that night was “do you have any hot single friends that would come over here?”
Another time I went with a female friend of mine to get drinks. We met up with her guy friend. He ordered a round of beers for everyone except me. His excuse was “he didn’t know she was going to bring someone along and he is low on money” that was until his guy friend from high school showed up unexpectedly and he quickly bought him a drink.
These are just examples that have happened to me. So my question is are there any other “unattractive” girls out there that experience things similar to this? 
I just wanted to speak from the other perspective. We always hear the horror stories of sexism from the perspective of the women who are objectified by men in the sense of “oo I want that.” and not too many in the sense of “oo, ew DO NOT WANT” 
This may seem like a big long rant that looks like “WAH PRETTY GIRLS GET THINGS AND I DON’T OH MY LIFE SUCKS” but I don’t mean to come off that way. Because I feel the need to mention that guys don’t do this just to get laid. This is where it’s important to bring up the fact that we are treated with less respect than other men. Men aren’t decent people to other men because they want to fuck them. They are decent to them because they see them as equals that deserve basic respect and acknowledgement. But we are women and to these men either you try to fuck them because they are hot or want them to go away. An unattractive woman has no purpose to him. 
Misogyny affects  all women negatively. 

THIS IS IMPORTANT

As a woman who gained a lot of weight right out of high-school and spent 3 years in ill fitting clothes and various terrible haircuts, then lost the weight in her early twenties and drastically refined her look — I have lived both sides of this equation. And I think having experienced the dismissal makes it all the more glaringly obvious how hollow the so called “positive” attention really is.

Plus, as a society that women get harassed and cat called and all various other forms of irritation, girls that don’t get that start to wonder what’s wrong with them. Not that you even want to be hit on inappropriately or harassed on the street but when you just get overlooked by 99% of the male population for the people you hang out with, you start to wonder why they get hit on in front of you and you’re always left alone. I consider myself lucky now to have gone so long without the harassment but for a long time I really wondered if I just wasn’t pretty enough for any guy because all my friends always complained about having to turn guys down and attempt to not get hit on and no guy ever did that to me.

inlovewithmyipod:

lierdumoa:

nugget-basket:

the-unpopular-opinions:

The Opposite end of traditional “street harassment”: the girl who never get’s cat called

In feminist spaces I see a lot of feminists complain about being street harassed. I read about it and I totally sympathize with their experiences, even though I have never experienced them myself. I am a female myself but am not conventionally attractive. I am not hideous but more or less a plain jane. On top of that I have ALWAYS valued comfort over style, so dressing feminine isn’t something I do on a regular basis. I wear a lot of loose jeans and T-shirts. But yeah, anyway, know that I  am not trying to play “who has it harder” or anything but rather I am making this to share my experiences of getting the opposite end of the shit-covered stick that is street harassment that I don’t see being mentioned. I call it street dismissal.

When I say street dismissal I am talking about men who feel the need to subtly announce that unattractive women are not worthy of respect or acknowledgement because they are not a conventionally attractive female or their fellow man. 

Some examples I’ve personally experienced include:

  • Many guys at parties will arrive or leave, give all the men handshakes, give the attractive women hugs, but won’t even make eye contact with me. I am not a guy or a hot girl so I don’t exist.
  • I’ve been bumped into in public without an apology by men. I am not an attractive girl or your fellow man, so it makes sense for you to not even notice I am there.
  • One time I was walking behind a group of attractive women. A guy spotted us. Opened the door for the three women and shut the door in my face. I am not worthy of his time because I am not attractive.
  • I once was charged a cover on ladies night because I went out to the bar in my work uniform. (red shirt khaki pants)
  • Another time at a bar, I saw an open space to order a drink. The guy sitting next to me saw me, raised his eyebrows and turned the other way to make sure I don’t DARE try to talk to him. (Because I totally went there to hit on him and NOT get a drink right?)
  • I once went with my gay male friend to a straight guys house he knew. The first thing out of the straight guy’s mouth was “I was totally excited when you had a chick with you. Nevermind!” the whole night he offered my friend drinks and didn’t offer me a thing and seemed frustrated when I asked where the bathroom was. The only other thing he said that night was “do you have any hot single friends that would come over here?”
  • Another time I went with a female friend of mine to get drinks. We met up with her guy friend. He ordered a round of beers for everyone except me. His excuse was “he didn’t know she was going to bring someone along and he is low on money” that was until his guy friend from high school showed up unexpectedly and he quickly bought him a drink.

These are just examples that have happened to me. So my question is are there any other “unattractive” girls out there that experience things similar to this? 

I just wanted to speak from the other perspective. We always hear the horror stories of sexism from the perspective of the women who are objectified by men in the sense of “oo I want that.” and not too many in the sense of “oo, ew DO NOT WANT” 

This may seem like a big long rant that looks like “WAH PRETTY GIRLS GET THINGS AND I DON’T OH MY LIFE SUCKS” but I don’t mean to come off that way. Because I feel the need to mention that guys don’t do this just to get laid. This is where it’s important to bring up the fact that we are treated with less respect than other men. Men aren’t decent people to other men because they want to fuck them. They are decent to them because they see them as equals that deserve basic respect and acknowledgement. But we are women and to these men either you try to fuck them because they are hot or want them to go away. An unattractive woman has no purpose to him. 

Misogyny affects  all women negatively. 

THIS IS IMPORTANT

As a woman who gained a lot of weight right out of high-school and spent 3 years in ill fitting clothes and various terrible haircuts, then lost the weight in her early twenties and drastically refined her look — I have lived both sides of this equation. And I think having experienced the dismissal makes it all the more glaringly obvious how hollow the so called “positive” attention really is.

Plus, as a society that women get harassed and cat called and all various other forms of irritation, girls that don’t get that start to wonder what’s wrong with them. Not that you even want to be hit on inappropriately or harassed on the street but when you just get overlooked by 99% of the male population for the people you hang out with, you start to wonder why they get hit on in front of you and you’re always left alone. I consider myself lucky now to have gone so long without the harassment but for a long time I really wondered if I just wasn’t pretty enough for any guy because all my friends always complained about having to turn guys down and attempt to not get hit on and no guy ever did that to me.

mancandykings:

PHOTOSHOOT MEME
daniel radcliffe

That’s it, everyone. I’m banning eyebrows from existing.

When your life is finished burning down
you’ll be all that’s left standing there
you’ll become a baby cumulus
and fly up to the firmament

(Source: Spotify)

Is college worth it?

What I like about this article is that it doesn’t stop after you reach the inevitable conclusion: study engineering or finance, and you’ll make enough money to pay off your ridiculous student loans. Instead, it condemns the root of the problem. 

Instead of encouraging students to turn away from what they’re passionate about, make learning and personal enrichment—which is the point of higher education—more affordable. And yes, make it skills-based. Make it about learning how to write, how to reason, and how to communicate. 

whiskey-wolf:

$2,500.00 Titanium and Gold Lip Pearl Linerlock

This knife is from Suchat’s New Diamond Edition. This liner locking folder features a carved Robert Calcinore Mosaic Damascus blade. The handle has carved titanium bolsters, carved gold lip pearl scales with pink/green/yellow stone inserts, carved matching Damascus rear bolsters, and carved and anodized titanium liners and back-spacer.

Thoughts on music, 4/14

1. Dear annoyingly tall guy at the Trust show, if you’re going to push your way to the front, put your damn phone down. I don’t know what you could have possibly been filming, since the smoke and flashing lights AND YOUR INCREDIBLE HEIGHT made it more of a visceral than a visual experience. Hope you enjoy the stiffness from not moving your body to the music at all to the tune of the random blobs of color in your crappy cell phone video.

2. I Am Ghost’s Lover’s Requiem is gorgeous and will forever be one of my favorite records, emo-ness (and the comparable suckage of their second record) aside.

3. Speaking of creepy: Br’er. Icy. Experimental. Dark. Lovely. Go

4. Broods is really boring. Rip-off band. Sorry. 

5. Etxe Records is sending me advance releases. This is the label that put out Ars Phoenix’s Violent Rain, a truly stellar record. So stoked.

6. Speaking of stoked, Kristen and I are going to go see Fall Out Boy and Paramore because I am a 16-year-old girl at heart and I have no shame. Or dignity, apparently, which helps with the no shame thing. Winner.

(Source: 21vines)

districtbeat:

TONIGHT: ODONIS ODONIS
8 PM @ BLACK CAT BACKSTAGE
TICKETS $12 VIA TICKETFLY

Frankly, you shouldn’t need a reason for either of these things, but in case you’ve ever wanted one for…

  • buying the vinyl and only the vinyl
  • indulging the psych rock and industrial noise sides of your music taste within the same half-hour period

…Odonis Odonis has made the album for you. The Toronto three-piece arrives back on the scene with Hard Boiled Soft Boiled, a record that exposes every crack and crevice of the lo-fi genre for a spatially challenging firecracker of a sophomore effort. 

Pinning down exactly what Odonis Odonis are is a fool’s errand; the band self-identify as “industrial surfgaze,” a term that immediately invites dispute. The rough scrape of metal on metal…at the beach? Not exactly. What Odonis Odonis makes is scorched on the sidewalk, a fried egg with the backside burnt and coated in an unapologetic layer of grit. 

The record opens with mechanical screeching, which conflagrates quickly in the almost hardcore musicality of “Are We Friends.” Things temper a bit after that, but the raging noise of the first, “hard-boiled” side of the album is vaguely reminiscent of another band that took the backstage at the Black Cat recently: Youth Code. An odd comparison, perhaps, but one that’s appropriate for Odonis Odonis’ genre-bending. The vocals are clean, but the raw machinery? That’s pure chaos. 

Flip the record over for a “soft-boiled” take, one that pulls sounds apart and pours late-evening sunlight into the spaces created. From “Release” onwards, Hard Boiled Soft Boiled starts to breathe—not just to catch up after the hard-boiled side, but in a truly harmonic fashion indicative of smart production and seamless instrumentation. The rougher edge doesn’t disappear, but after thrashing about for a bit, it settles down and collects its thoughts, letting gaze guitars and tidal melodies smooth it, if only a little. 

It’s a progression that only the physical act of playing vinyl can replicate, so it will be interesting to see if Odonis Odonis’ live show chooses to mesh the sounds or keep things more divided. Whatever the case, it’s guaranteed to be an explosive evening.

Top 25 record of 2014, probably.

Ways not to begin blog posts: A guide by Anna

"Away, beer naysayers!"

"BEER BEER BEER ALL THE TIME BEER"

"BEER IS SO GREAT shut up I’m taking notes BEER"

(For the record, the blog posts are about beer. I am not that one-track minded.)

(Well, I am. But.)